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2015.03.12 09:01 DeanKeaton r/MBTIDating - Certain Personalities Work Well Together

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2012.10.16 20:29 ESFP: The Performer

【𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐠𝐧𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐬𝐮𝐛 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐦𝐲𝐞𝐫𝐬-𝐛𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐠𝐬 𝐄𝐒𝐅𝐏𝐬 (𝐒𝐞 - 𝐅𝐢 - 𝐓𝐞 - 𝐍𝐢) ---- 𝐋𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐟𝐮𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐟𝐥𝐚𝐢𝐫 ✨ 】

2020.10.28 21:41 CarpeDiemLiam66 I think my girlfriend's an ISFP, but I'm not sure.

Hi everyone!
I am categorized, according to MBTI, as an ENTP 5w4.
I just recently started dating a girl around October 5th and I had her take the MBTI test, and she was classified as an INFJ, which is an excellent matchup for an ENTP like me.
However, her behavior confuses me because it's like she has elements of a healthy INFJ (insatiable curiosity, always asking questions, wanting to have the perfect relationship, sensitive/caring), but also the qualities I would expect of an ISFP (very artistic, soaks in her surroundings sensory wise, up for new experiences, caring, supportive).
I really like her a lot, she brings out my Fe side (ENTP- 1.) Ne 2.) Ti 3.) Fe 4.) Si), so I'm less of a playful smart-ass around her, and debating philosophically.
I know the way you can tell is by looking at cognitive functions to tell what somebody is, and with ISFPs, their secondary/auxiliary function is Extroverted Sensing, which is the inferiolast function of an INFJ. So extroverted sensing is a lot higher up and more dominant functions for ISFPs as opposed to INFJs.
There's a possibility she could be an ISFJ, but she doesn't look like somebody who uses introverted sensing (Si).
so I'm going to strive her behavior a little bit and please tell me if this sounds like any of you guys.
1.) She's quiet, reserved, very well mannered and polite
2.) When she's in a new setting we're surrounding she soaks everything in like a sponge in water, sensory wise. She can point out distinct individual sensations or stimuli in her surroundings. Like for example if she's in a forest she can pinpoint certain noises and tell you what they are or pinpoint certain details she notices.
3.) She's open-minded and willing to try new experiences.
4.) She has a fear of not knowing what to say in social situations.
5.) She's very artistic in nature, and loves new settings and surroundings. She has the heart for adventure.
6.) She's very caring and supportive, and empathetic. She can feel things very deeply, and can sense when something's off.
Does that sound like an ISFP to you?
By the way I like the ISFP personality type- I have an appreciation for their artistic, adventurous nature, and their natural creativity. ✌️
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2020.10.28 15:54 lionjourney How common are ENFP’s?

I am an ENFP and most of my friends are ENXX or INXX.
Same with the guys I date, there’s been an ENTP, 2 ENFPs and an ENFJ.
Interestingly enough , I found out my favourite co workers are also ENFP’s and one is an ESFP.
I know intuitives are not as common as sensors, but ENFPs are the most common N types.
I suppose I am attracted to fellow intuitives, but I also adore and admire my ESFP/ ESTP/ ISFJ friends. Those are the only sensor types I am good friends with ,but I’m sure I know many more wonderful ones!
So are ENFPs more common than 7-8%? Do I just happen to find them ?
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2020.10.27 15:26 PREPOSTEROUSPOO complimenting pppl

ENFP-playful, boooncy, annoying but endeaaring, super smort jack of all trades, kind, llife of the partooiii, neverending curiousity, jumping around, energetic, floofy golden retriever, tigger, bad characteristic: adhd
ISFP-favourite type, whysosxy, basically wizards who can make anything appear in front of them, strong-willed, artistic, sweet, individualistic, fierce with a kind heart, quiet but intenss, move things to their will, SEXY LITLE FUCCs thats not going to make one date me apparently bad characteristic: 2 hot for their own good
ISTP-sxy, fierce testosterone eyes, thinking isfp, brave, fiaaarsss, BEND THINGS TO THEIR WILL, high mechanical intelligence (getting technical again), put all the jigsaws into place, ingenious sh*ts, parkour ppl 101 bad characteristic: 2 fierce
INFJ-FUCKING SEXY BEAUTIFUL POS', sometimes has this hot show offy but smort graceful IN YO FACE 4w3 energy to them that i want to fukkkkkkk , anyway, otherwise quiet, wise, intellectual, but charming little mofos bad characteristic: SEXYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY
ISFJ- SEXY AF, slinky, i keep thinking they have glitter on them, graceful, remind me of sexy older RL versions of elegant disney characters, classy really dreamy eyes, slinky-shimmers-glittery- energy, charming BICH, instantly likable, wise, ethereal i hate them so much bad characteristic: none
ENTP- caring, sexy fuks, intoooligooont, empathetic person who always wants to lift th emood, THAT EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE, a type that exists that somehow has insane emotional intelligence but uses it completely to charm, uplift and entertain others? lucky, baddest characteristic: 2 sexy for their own good
ESFJ- SO SOFFF, scarily caring, charming, SWEETST PEOPLE CANT DEAL, speaks like theyre in a period drama or a play, make everyone happy, artistiqueee conoisseur, SOFFEST HUGS ALWAYS FREE AND AVAILABLE I NABUNDANCE
ESTP- THEY ARE SO SEXY, has eeye patch, savvy little fuks, wud be a pirate, intoooligeoont, way of getting what they want, charming, that EQ though, trickster NO 1
ISTJ- SEXY WARRIOR, wears this really crisp stoic shirt, PASSINATE SXY FYRE, passionate stoic no 1, intenss wise eyes, the gr8 stoic philosophy goin on there, wise &, INSANE INTEGRITY and no BS, intenss, like a ROCK in equilibrium, extremely universally fair and consistent without any of the sjw bs THANK U, strong PRINCIPLED SHIT
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2020.10.26 07:33 JackassBarque Sam O'Donnell- The Boatman's Daughter [Reintro]

Basic Info

Name: Samantha Mary O’Donnell
Nickname/Alias: Sam. Calling her anything else will result in her immediate and possibly violent displeasure.
Date of Birth: 17 March 2003
Hometown: Sacramento, California
Age: 17
Gender: Female
Sexuality: Homosexual
Godly Parent: Charon, Boatman of the Styx
Mortal Parent: Hannah O’Donnell
Zodiac Sign: Pisces
Theme: Spancil Hill- The Dubliners


Eye color: Blue
Hairstyle: Usually long and loose, her hair is the one thing about her appearance in which Sam takes pride.
Height: 5’7”
Weight: None of your business.
Physique: Athletic, as she used to play high school softball, but only recently recovered from malnourishment from when she was homeless.
Face Claim: Molly Quinn

Combat and Godly Information

Claimed: Yes.
  • Charon's Obol: Sam can always find enough money to get by, though not enough for extravagant purchases- she can buy food and basic supplies, but that's about it.
  • Shadow Travel: She can travel about a mile via shadows, though doing so leaves her tired and dizzy, and taking people with her cuts down the distance she can travel.
  • Umbrakinesis (Invisibility): Sam can cloak herself in shadows to become invisible. This requires her to be in a shadow large enough to cover her whole body to activate, and it can only last for ten minutes if she remains in the shadows, or less time if she enters areas of direct light.
Weapon of Choice: A Stygian iron long knife, gifted to her by her father (indirectly via messenger) on her thirteenth birthday when she was claimed. Since arriving at camp she has begun pairing it with a Celestial bronze axe crafted by Peter Schmidt.

Additional Information

Alignment: True Neutral
Personality: ISFJ
Positive Traits
  • Perceptive
  • Diligent
  • Motivated
Negative Traits
  • Paranoid
  • Self Loathing
  • Trust Issues


Her previous introduction.


Sam was walking back towards the Chthonic cabin after dinner, drumming her fingers against the hilt of her knife with each step. She brushed her hair back from her face, looking around with a frown as she thought she heard something. "Hello?" she called out. "Someone there?"
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2020.10.26 03:02 ConsciousSpot I have received a slight doubt so let's see what type y'all think I am. Most likely an INTP but am I using Fi anywhere ?

• How old are you? What's your gender? Give us a general description of yourself.
I am 22. Male. Love to always be alone. Like I'm never disappointed when I'm alone. I go out of my way to be alone. I don't pick up calls often. I don't miss most people. But I'm fairly confident in social situations except when they are pointless and party like situation or where I'm obviously the most weird person by the look of it or just by the perceived class IDK. My jokes are often not understood in most groups but in some of them i become instantly popular. I always make more friends than I can handle and always regret. I love to play video games and I have in the past read about every major thing about the world like religion spirituality history technology futuristic views on technology economic systems psychology. Just a general view of everything until they made enough sense to me.
• Is there a medical diagnosis that may impact your mental stability somehow?
Nope. I'm pretty stable mentally. Cry a lot though lol
• Describe your upbringing. Did it have any kind of religious or structured influence? How did you respond to it?
Dad was typical ESTJ. Made me do a lot of tasks which I never really did. Was beaten up every month or so for like five years from when I was five to when I was ten. Was scolded for every little thing. Had very little confidence as a kid but no matter what happened I always stuck to my own ways. It was like I'd do what I like and then fear getting beaten up but it was never a motivator for me to do things which were painfully boring. As I was beaten up regularly it is obvious that my family is very traditional. Over the years I feel my parents have gone more liberal. Mom is ISFJ. She didn't like my father beating me up but what can she do ?
• What do you do as a job or as a career (if you have one)? Do you like it? Why or why not?
Just graduated from industrial engineering. I'm considering a switch to social sciences. Have worked in research projects in the past. Been abroad. Have a publication. Not that I'm proud of any of that which is why I want to make a switch. Feel I'd do better in social sciences.
• What kinds of activities do you prefer? Do you like, and are you good at sports? Do you enjoy any other outdoor or indoor activities?
Used to like sports but after getting my shoulder dislocated three times I have stopped playing sports. Never was good at sports though. Used to suck at the physical education classes. I like walking outside a lot though all by myself. Have walked at times for hours. Love video games too.
• How curious are you? Do you have more ideas then you can execute? What are your curiosities about? What are your ideas about - is it environmental or conceptual, and can you please elaborate?
If I'm in a creative mode I will get lots of ideas and I used to be much more curious than now. I have a vision though and have started implementation on it. My ideas are mostly about the big picture of humanity. About how big systems can be improved to suit us more. I also used to be fascinated by modern technologies but I'm kind of putting that off since I'm no longer considering engineering.
• Would you enjoy taking on a leadership position? Do you think you would be good at it? What would your leadership style be?
I will take a leadership position. I like it when I do. I can accept blame. I speak when everyone else is quiet but if someone else is willing to take the charge then I go in the background. But when I have no idea what's going on then I like to be in the background. I don't like to express my opinion when I don't have knowledge about something.
• Are you coordinated? Why do you feel as if you are or are not? Do you enjoy working with your hands in some form? Describe your activity?
If I were would I manage to dislocate my shoulder three times pretty effortlessly ? Yeah two of the times I wasn't even playing sports.
• Are you artistic? If yes, describe your art? If you are not particular artistic but can appreciate art please likewise describe what forums of art you enjoy. Please explain your answer.
Naturally I never used to appreciate art much but only recently I have begun to notice certain subtleties in music, movies and video games. I'm fascinated by how much thought goes into these things to touch your inner core. Like how do they do that ? It's magic.
• What's your opinion about the past, present, and future? How do you deal with them?
I want to get out of my head and be here and now and that's the place we were meant to be. If we could be completely freed of past and future we would live life effortlessly without regrets and anxieties. But well we can't so let's only use past and future for practical purposes right ? I can't live without planning even though I don't think I've ever followed a single plan in my entire life. I wish I could live without the false sense of certainty that I need from planning.
• How do you act when others request your help to do something (anything)? If you would decide to help them, why would you do so?
If it's easily doable then I hate them for making me do something that they could do themselves. I can't help anybody continuously. Once or twice it is fine but it it starts feeling one sided then I stop responding to their calls.
• Do you need logical consistency in your life?
Probably. I don't really care much about logical consistency even if I'm a logical person. It's because logic is a slow process. Trying to make sense of everything through logic can drive you crazy. I have known no happy person who did that. I may be a logical person but I don't see the point of using it everywhere I can.
• How important is efficiency and productivity to you?
Efficiency is important in specific things. Like when I'm performing certain experiments. I can't tolerate even the slightest inefficiency in the design of experiment. I will not even publish my results if I didn't think the process wasn't efficient enough to justify the significance of the results. I like to be easy going but can't tolerate wastage of time. Talking to people for hours can make me feel guilty of being unproductive.
• Do you control others, even if indirectly? How and why do you do that?
I am persuasive in my opinions. But I'm not trying to control people. I'm trying to make my point understood and I usually don't have it other way. Even if they don't agree they have to either say they agree or make valid points or I will not leave them at peace. Well I have become more easy going over the years so I may not do that now.
• What are your hobbies? Why do you like them?
Playing video games. I am just in awe with the worlds that they create. Be it open world or simulation game. Sometimes I get curious about world happenings and start reading on that.
• What is your learning style? What kind of learning environments do you struggle with most? Why do you like/struggle with these learning styles? Do you prefer classes involving memorization, logic, creativity, or your physical senses?
I struggle in any learning environment with more people and more structure. I want it to be unstructured. I don't want to know what I'm going to learn tomorrow. Surprise me. I want discussions and debates on the topic to understand it if I'm in a class. And everyone should be involved. But till date I've mostly always learnt from books by classifying all knowledge into a proper structure in my mind. I have a good memory. I relate topics well. I create my own theories to make sense of what I have read. I don't need any aids. Words and equations are enough. I have confidence that I can understand anything if I put my mind to it and I usually do but I need a lot of time because I am not satisfied if I don't understand something in complete depth. I hate books which are vague and purposefully made easy to be understood. I want challenging but practical material so that every word on it has a secret behind it.
• How good are you at strategizing? Do you easily break up projects into manageable tasks? Or do you have a tendency to wing projects and improvise as you go?
I don't have patience with this. I am a more trial and error kind of person.
• What are your fears? What makes you uncomfortable? What do you hate? Why?
Everything occasionally makes me uncomfortable but the only thing I am always afraid of is heights. I am also often susceptible to guilt so there's that. I hate insincerity and manipulative people. I also hate when people use others.
• What do the "highs" in your life look like?
Alone time. Distant land. Lots of books. Nature. Leisure.
• What do the "lows" in your life look like?
Obligated to give my time to other people for some project or some other promise I made. Getting too many calls. I just feel drained at these times.
• How attached are you to reality? Do you daydream often, or do you pay attention to what's around you? If you do daydream, are you aware of your surroundings while you do so?
I seriously don't consider the daily practical life to be reality. The only reality Is the non physical universe that can be felt by a meditative mind. I try to be in touch with it often at times. I am aware of my surroundings but I don't spot peculiarities in it. As in if you tell me someone's wearing clothes in a weird way I wouldn't think it weird if I had noticed it before. I notice my surroundings but don't really care much. I wish I'd daydream more often. Like the idea but often am involved with something.
• Imagine you are alone in a blank, empty room. There is nothing for you to do and no one to talk to. What do you think about?
I will accept it. Obviously not the best scenario. But I'll meditate till I die. There are great wonders within body. Will finally get to experience that and become Buddha or something if I don't die of suffocation because I was assuming the room is airy ? Lol
• How long do you take to make an important decision? And do you change your mind once you've made it?
I never take a decision until time has pressured me into making one. Trying to change that because for the first time in my life I feel like I have something to live for.
• How long do you take to process your emotions? How important are emotions in your life?
I need to feel peaceful all the time. If I don't then I stop everything else to get back to being peaceful. I am good at processing my emotions. Maybe I just think I am good but I know why I feel good or bad about something or what exactly is causing me trouble. I am self aware in that respect thanks again to meditation.
• Do you ever catch yourself agreeing with others just to appease them and keep the conversation going? How often? Why?
Yeah I do this a lot not sure if to appease but maybe to avoid conflict. Even when I have previously made up my mind to not agree I still say yes like wtf ?
• Do you break rules often? Do you think authority should be challenged, or that they know better? If you do break rules why ?
No I don't break rules at all but I do that because I don't want to create trouble for no reason. I often want to know the rules of wherever I am going before I spend time there. I am very particular about not breaking rules. Authority should definitely be challenged pretty much all the time but I'm not competent enough to do it. I always give full support to those who challenge authority but I don't want them to make authority people feel bad, they should just see the fault in their ways that's all.
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2020.10.23 22:59 DelyPachy I don't have any friends

just.. Why? I'm a good person. I don't want to have some fake friends just to spend some time. I just wanted to have true friends 'cause I need, sometimes I feel terrible (maybe because of my low Fi) and need to be comforted by someone I trust. I'm a 17yo female ENTJ (please don't say I'm young, I don't feel like I'm young trust me), you can guess I don't meet the gender standards of my environment. That's why it's been hard for me to have female friends -I haven't been interested in girly topics. And it's hard for me to have male friends because of my father. So I'm asking for advice. What should I do? The reason why I ask that questions in entj is, you can understand my situation and me easily because of my type and can give me more helpful and useful advice.
--- unnecessary information about my family --- I have an overly controlling and kinda-toxic ENTP father and we can't get along with each other lately. My passive apathetic ISFJ (not sure with the typing) mother is not someone I want to be like and she doesn't care about me. So I've got nobody to trust and speak up. I haven't had many friends because of my father since I was just a kid. I remember the times I cried because I didn't have any friends when I was 10.
---unnecessary information about my situation in highschool--- Now, I've been going to a prestigious highschool in my country in another city for two years (this is my 3th year and I'll have 2 more years before I graduate because I studied a preparation class for German -it's complicated to tell you about) and stay with my aunt when the schools are open. I had two classmates (a male ENFP and a female ESTJ) who I spend time at school but couldn't speak so openly. They've been dating each other for one year and have forgotten about me. I'm alone. Since the schools are closed due to corona I've been home with a toxic environment.
---unnecessary gripe part--- So, I'm tired and have nobody to talk or ask for help. I'm tired of the problems mostly about making some decisions for my future and some mistakes I've done. I'm confused what kind of person should I be and how should I feel about some topics. I don't have anybody to trust. I'm sick of behaving like nothing bothering me but crying in my bed before I sleep -trying to be sure nobody can hear me.
•Thank you for reading all these
So I'm repeating my questions again: What should I do? What should I feel about that situation? Could you pls give me some advice and say me what to do? I'm searching for an advice.
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2020.10.22 16:07 blissfulyonder Thought I was INFJ for 8 questioning if I'm actually INFP. Help type me please! :)

So I thought I was INFJ for 8 years, but now I've been questioning if I'm actually INFP for the past two months. I wrote this up, and I'd really appreciate any insight into what my type really is.
Note: I am a 4w5 sp/sx, and this might influence my answers. I'm very sure on my Enneagram type.
• How old are you? What's your gender? Give us a general description of yourself.
I am 18 years old and female! I’m a first year Arts student at University where I’m double majoring in Psychology and English Literature.
• Is there a medical diagnosis that may impact your mental stability somehow?
Never been diagnosed officially due to my parents believing mental health is for people who need to be put in a psych ward, but I’ve been dealing with chronic depression and an anxiety disorder for the past 2 years intensely. I also struggle with insomnia.
• Describe your upbringing. Did it have any kind of religious or structured influence? How did you respond to it?
Mom is ISTJ, and my dad is ISFJ. My dad worked abroad, and was absent for most of my childhood. My mom was very strict; your classic Asian tiger parent. I grew up always going to multiple classes doing activities I didn’t care for in order to appease her, being yelled at and physically abused, and essentially living under constant fear & feeling pretty awful about myself for a seven year old child. I had no freedom, no individuality, and no sense of real self when my mom was present in the room. I dealt with it by shutting down mentally and retreating to my own world. I became very focused on living for the future, and always believing that if I just preserved through, stayed kind, and didn’t let her abuse get to me, that my life would turn out okay & I would finally be able to break free and become my own person. I also became overly empathetic and quite sensitive at a young age as a result; always feeling way too connected with my emotions & the emotions of others.
• If you had to spend an entire weekend by yourself, how would you feel? Would you feel lonely or refreshed?
If I had the internet, I would feel quite happy! I spend a lot of time alone either way; I’m really introverted and have a very limited social bar that essentially is spent on 3 people maximum at a time. Definitely would end the time feeling refreshed, since I’d spend most of it reflecting on my feelings, opinions, other people’s feelings, daydreaming, and just being in my own visionary world.
• What kinds of activities do you prefer? Do you like, and are you good at sports? Do you enjoy any other outdoor or indoor activities?
My interests include writing (especially poetry), reading novels, personality psychology, and listening to music. Music is a really important part of my identity and who I am; I strongly resonate with various artists that have helped me throughout my lifetime. These artists include people such as Fiona Apple, Tori Amos, and Stevie Nicks. I’m not great at sports, but I did enjoy figure skating as a child. I thought the costumes were beautiful & I liked to imagine that I was a successful Olympic figure skater during classes.
• How curious are you? Do you have more ideas than you can execute? What are your curiosities about? What are your ideas about - is it environmental or conceptual, and can you please elaborate?
I’m a very curious person, and I tend to spend a lot of time pondering on my own identity, feelings, and thoughts. This curiosity especially extends to people in my life that I’m close to, I love understanding human nature and the human experience overall. I think it’s beautiful, especially during one’s ugly moments. I also think it’s really important to understand yourself and those around you; a life that’s emotionally rich is one that I think is at its most fulfilling.
I definitely have more ideas then I can execute; I have a lot of interests that tend to die out quickly, but the ones that resonate with me on a profound emotional level stay with me for YEARS. My ideas are VERY conceptual. They tend to come from an inner compass within me that has an abstract sense of the life I want to live out one day; one that is uniquely my own and comes from an individual sense of bliss & experience.
• Would you enjoy taking on a leadership position? Do you think you would be good at it? What would your leadership style be?
Nope, unless it’s something oriented around emotions. I’m not great at leadership positions that are task-driven and devoid of some kind of deep humanistic connection. Or at least, I don’t enjoy them. My leadership style is very laissez-faire; as long as everyone is getting along and feeling happy doing what they’re doing, I could care less.
• Are you artistic? If yes, describe your art? If you are not particularly artistic but can appreciate art please likewise describe what forums of art you enjoy. Please explain your answer.
I love art. Growing up, I was taught to shove my true artistic self down my throat, but in the past few months I’ve discovered that I am actually a very artistically motivated and fulfilled individual. My art comes through writing; I love poetry. From reading to writing it, it fuels me to write about feelings, experiences, past relationships...I feel like I’m connecting a part of my soul to the great human condition, that maybe one day someone will read what I write and resonate with it on a healing level.
• What's your opinion about the past, present, and future? How do you deal with them?
Past: Okay, this is a hard one for me. I grew up with parents that were both overly fueled by their poor past experiences (unhealthy Dom Si dad & mom). As a result, I denied how much the past subconsciously affected me for years. However, I do tend to hold onto and treasure past moments, especially ones that have emotionally impacted my view on the future & my own direction. I have a lot of fond nostalgia for exes, old teachers, songs I used to love...but especially teachers & mentor figures that have shaped me. I love them dearly. I do tend to "let go" of past mistakes consciously and I commit them again. This pattern ends up affecting my behaviour severely in negative ways. I get used to a certain "mentality" or "self-image" of myself that is often flat out depressing, and I keep living it out in a state of withdrawn melancholy.
Present: Not the best at the present. I do enjoy doing things “in the moment” however a lot. I have this kind of subconscious...almost raw and primal energy within me that tends to randomly come out. I love wild experiences where you don’t have to think, you just “do”. I'm garbage at all this though, even though I wish I wasn't. I’m never focused on the present moment. Mostly, I’m focused on the future. I suck shit at doing anything where you need to be physically grounded.
Future: I love the future. Honestly, the future is my biggest saviour of grace in my life. I love envisioning the future and all the possibilities that come with it. I have a lot of opinions and insights on the human condition, how people seem to work, how they think, feel, dream, process grief and happiness and every emotion imaginable. The future and all the hope it holds is kind of a safety blanket for me; I always turn to imagining a future where I’ve achieved what I wanted, the lifestyle that I’ve been craving for years...and it keeps me afloat and makes me feel connected with who I am & what I believe.
• Do you need logical consistency in your life?
Hm...yes and no. I think I like when the people in my life are logically consistent and have theories and conclusions cemented in logical analysis; every single friend or person I’ve dated has had Ti in either their Dom or Aux function except one (and they still had Ti technically in their function slot.) Most of my closest friends and boyfriends have been strong Ti users, and I find it to be a really attractive function. I’ve never been close with a Te user really, but I think that’s because I struggle a lot with the Te function. However, I don’t think I need to be too logically consistent as an individual in order to be sane.
• Do you control others, even if indirectly? How and why do you do that?
No; I’ve been controlled my whole life and it’s fucking horrible. Damages you and fucks you up so bad, even if it’s indirectly done. I would never do that to someone, and I’d never forgive myself if I realized one day that I did.
• What are your aspirations in life, professionally and personally?
To live a life as true and organic to who I really am; to uplift people and help them find their own insights, inspiration, and meaning. I want to create poetry, I want to help people through their problems, I want to find love, and I want to flourish as an individual. I want my moral insights and my feelings and my hope for humanity to actually be marked onto the world, and for it to actually resonate with someone and guide them through their trials.
• What are your fears? What makes you uncomfortable? What do you hate? Why?
My fears are never being loved, living a life that isn’t my own, not living a life true to my morals and hope for humanity, and living a life without creative and individual meaning. I have a lot of insights and beliefs that, if anyone would like to hear them, I’d love to share in hopes that it’d give them comfort and hope too. Overly blunt people, people who don’t value emotions, and liars all make me really uncomfortable. I can tell when people are lying 99% of the time, and it drives me fucking crazy. I hate feeling belittled, being used for my empathy, and feeling like people don’t see me for who I really am, because they’re too busy trying to make their image of me into someone that fits their own personal narrative. If the real me doesn’t fit into someone’s narrative, I don’t want a role in it at all.
• Do you ever catch yourself agreeing with others just to appease them and keep the conversation going? How often? Why?
I used to do this when I was younger in group settings (but this is just because I don’t really care about how I come off in groups at all, and therefore give basically no thought to my presence), but not anymore. I’ve never done this though in individual conversation, unless a really terrible conflict was going to arise by me disagreeing, and it would have to be on something extremely petty and insignificant to what I believe in for me to just go along with it.
What do the "highs" in your life look like?
I am extremely empathetic, hopeful, and connected with my inner compass. I'm able to fully accept all my emotions, and instead of dwelling in them and letting them control me to a manic depressive state, I'm instead able to be more clear-headed and take myself less seriously. I can let go of past griefs, and I don't let people's past views, opinions, and takes on me affect how I choose to view my future self, which is something I really struggle with. I'm also writing a lot, and fully feeling in my creative self. I'm putting myself out there, and letting my heart be open to new possibilities in love and in my life.
• What do the "lows" in your life look like?
My empathy burns out, and I become extremely emotionally unstable. I get really melancholic and withdraw from society completely. I talk to nobody at all, I have no energy to even muster up thoughts and words from my mouth, and I just shut down. I tend to introject people's negative beliefs on me, and they end up becoming parts of my personality that are very emotionally disconnected from who I actually am. "Lows" in my life tend to include a lot of that, since I take other people's takes on me too seriously and I end up believing that I need to portray those beliefs, or else I will fail them and have absolutely no worth as a human being. I close myself off emotionally, and just get really cold, critical, and unmotivated. I also fuck my health over by either never sleeping, or getting way too dependent on caffeine, or having a horrible diet. I neglect all of my body's needs, and I essentially allow myself to just soak in my own pity and self-hatred.
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2020.10.22 15:19 DittoBurrito123 ENFJ vs ESFJ?

For the longest time I’ve identified with ENFJ 9w1. However, I I’ve always often doubted whether I really am an xNFJ or xSFJ, and there’s a few reasons for that. (Which will probably revolve around the Si vs Ni, and Se vs Ne difference.😊)
Here’s some clues to get started:
1.) I’ve always been really sensitive, empathetic, and having an unconditional love and care for others. My main purpose in life is to make the world a better place, but to also have a happy life for myself and my loved ones.
2.) Ever since I was young, I was extremely good at and interested in practical things. Art, building stuff, etc. (Except sports though cause I found them rather boring.) I also really loved challenging things that challenge my talents and/or intelligence, which is why nowadays I really like complicated puzzles.
3.) I was always praised for my really good memory. My Mother says that it’s annoying how I can remember everything and in good detail too. (Which is why I am so elaborate when explaining things.. Too elaborate sometimes even.) That is, as long as I’m interested in remembering something, or find it useful to remember it. But I remember a whole lot of things, yet am bad at remembering colors, clothes that people wore the other day, and dates and numbers.
4.) Since a young age I was known to “experiment”. Never actually believing what I hear, unless it first makes sense to me how it works and think about the “why”. I learnt a lot of things through trial and error, through experience, and was a little too brave for my own good cause it led to a tough past that I went through. However, that resulted into a lot of Wisdom that I could use to help my loved ones and others, and myself. ❤️☺️ I always used to care about others first and put their needs before my own, but I grew to change that cause it ended up not being healthy for me or those who care about me.
5.) I’m not much of a Leader. Probably because I don’t like being one anymore though, cause I noticed that Leading requires a lot of dirty work, or even lying for it to “work” sometimes. I hate being fake, and I hate lying or manipulation for any reasons. That’s why people find me to be surprisingly blunt at times actually, I like to see and know the truth head-on.
6.) I am known to be a fast learner, and good at solving complicated issues or coming up with a working plan really quickly. (But can also overcomplicate simple issues sometimes. Lol) However, “making sense of something” before I learn it is important to me. Usually I spend a little time in my head to calculate everything of how something is supposed to work, and find the most effective and/or efficient approach, in order to learn something or master it quickly. I think before I act, but not for too long.
And that was it! Lastly, I’ll just comment that most of my friends (and even tests) believe that I am a Fe-dom. 😊 And that in most tests I usually score equal on intuition and sensing. (Probably another sign of ENFJ or ESFJ, due to N and S being right next to eachother.) I am also known to be an Extrovert, because I often prefer having people around me and I feel bad if I go too long without any. 😔
My current best guesses for myself are: ENFJ, ESFJ, ENTP, ISFP. (And maybe INFJ or ISFJ) But I’d like to know what you guys think! ❤️✨
Thank you for reading this far, and I hope you all have a lovely day! 🤗
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2020.10.22 05:11 Lopsided-Board-926 Will ISTJ get back together with me?

I’m an ISFJ and we dated for 3 months about a year ago. However, approximately every 2-3 weeks he’ll ask to see me and always says he cares about me when I ask and how sweet I am. He also seems more affectionate the last few times and hug emojis me over text. I recently asked him if he wants to start dating again. He stared at me so I said he can think on it. What are the chances he’ll say yes after telling me often that it won’t work with us? How much time will it take him to get back to me if by chance he isn’t ignoring my question? Halp please!
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2020.10.21 18:29 tirednightshift INTP ISFJ dating advice

I... am an INTP struggling to help an ISFJ with trust issues and depression.
Problem is, I also suffer from depression and self-harming.
I am trying to make the ISFJ feel better by sharing quality time (we are together for over ten hours a day), changing my personality dramatically to the point where my INFJ friend is asking me whether I am actually... well... me, and saying sorry immediately when she goes into a rage over my actions even if I don't understand her anger(usually something like me trying to fix the wobbly table for her when she had worked non-stop for hours, and thus needed food more than a mechanic)
Still, she is the one who helped me recover from the worst of my emotional wreck-ness, and listened to me when not even my parents would.
I really want to help her get over her troubled past and learn to trust people again.
But I also am so tired of apologizing when I don't even understand the problem and changing myself so much every time she points out a flaw.
What can I do?
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2020.10.19 13:50 turtlewaves64 Is it possible to have a successful relationship with a xSxJ type?

I realize every single person I've dated is some variant of the SJ temperament. While some of the relationships have gone well, the differences in thought process and preferences just made us grow apart. I do see the benefits of dating someone who thinks with a completely different mindset. But when conflicts come up, it's always so hard to ask them to see things from my perspective. I'm happy to compromise for them, but there are some topics that I refuse to back down on. Especially when it comes to safety. Currently struggling with a relationship I started a few months ago. For reference, the other person is a ISFJ. Sometimes I wonder if maybe I am the problem and I should just be more chill about things.
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2020.10.14 21:12 entpinfj My girlfriend got INFJ, INTJ, and INFP as likely types. Type her?

Wondering what my girlfriend’s type is. I’m an ENTP (I think) and we’re pretty alike if it matters.
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2020.10.14 16:22 softpeachybaby ISFJ(M) not ready for relationship

Hey guys, I'm an INFJ female and I recently went on a date with a male ISFJ. Prior to the date, we were mostly on text and he was quite flirtatious and we were able to have lots of back and forth.
But after the date, which went swell, he told me he wasn't ready for a relationship as he was still hung up on his ex, and he said he wished for us to stay as "great friends for now" since he doesn't want to destroy our friendship. He told me he felt very comfortable sharing his thoughts and feelings and that I provided a lot of insight to him.
I told him that I would wait for him and I understand his situation. I hope I'm not reading too deep into that and I also mentioned to him that I wanted to help with his healing
I wanted to gain some insight from you guys about this - since I sent that message, he has read the message but he hasn't replied me, and I'm choosing to give him his space - Am I being too pushy? - Is it bad that I wish to wait for him? - What does this mean when an ISFJ says this?
I just hope we're able to work things out, because I really like him and I'm willing to wait for him and walk him through this as a friend too, and hopefully more in the future.
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2020.10.13 15:27 virekkartgod Boo - A Better Way to Date/Make Friends. New App based on MBTI.

Hey ISFJs! I'm Derek (ENTJ). A few months ago, my friends and I created an MBTI-based dating/friends app called Boo. Some of you may have already heard of it (and know that our first version was actually barely usable). I wanted to let you know about it because we've made a lot of improvements since then and thought you'd be interested in trying it out.
Like many of us, we're hardcore MBTI lovers and enthusiasts and thought it strange that no MBTI app existed yet. We thought MBTI could fix a few problems with current dating apps.
For one, you are recommended people you’re statistically likely to love and understand effortlessly, instead of being forced to meet every single type of person. Second, you can save time, money, and emotional fatigue you would have spent on bad dates with no chemistry on other dating apps. Third, you can deeply understand each other’s personalities before you meet and in a way that was never possible before. And fourth, get in-depth dating advice and insight into how to attract and get along with anyone.
Boo Telepathy Demo
Many of our users are using the app to make friends and foster deeper, more meaningful connections. We pretty much built this app for people like us, so I'd love to get your feedback on how we can make it better.
The app is completely free to use, with added features like Dating Telepathy that are part of a premium membership (to support our operations).
You can download the app through the Apple App Store and Google Play Store links on our website:
Thanks! Derek
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2020.10.13 02:58 yayafifi ISFJ lovers

INTP here. I'm writing a fanfiction and pairing an ENFP oc with ISFJ canon character. They are close friends and I'm planning on a best friends to lovers kind of relationship.
Can I ask
1) What traits in ISFJ do you find admirable and made you love them or at least like them?
2) what interaction between you and them usually looks like?
3) What kind of date do you do together and where?
4) shared hobbies and interests
5) who made the first move
6) Possible conflicts
7) surprising ISFJ traits
8) what made them attracted to you
Questions below are for ENFP
9) Do you desire stability and security in life?
10) ENFP traits that are surprising and different than what you guys are usually portrayed like.
11)Your deepest desire
12) what do your inner monologue sounds like
13) common stereotype that are wrong about your type.
14) What is your motivation? Or motto of life
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2020.10.13 01:44 username2591 INFJ and self-sabotage in relationships

I (31f) stopped dating for a long time 4+ years because I was working on moving to a new country and didn't want anything to derail me. Now I've moved and started meeting people, I've met a couple I don't really like/didn't click with, but now I'm hanging out one that I really, really like (32m, ISFJ).
But liking him really scares me and I don't know whether he feels the same way. He just ended a very long-term relationship a few months ago and I don't want to be a rebound or a hookup. He said he isn't seeing other people but I've seen a weird text pop up on his phone while we were going to his friend's house for dinner ([girl name, no last name]: when are you coming over). I thought it was someone at the dinner at first because we were slightly late, but it wasn't.
I'm just so scared of getting hurt, even the thought of getting my feelings hurt hurts my feelings. It makes me want to run away and be alone again, but I know I shouldn't :( I notice everything though, like weird messages like that, when he is/isn't talking to me, when he seems like he doesn't really wanna talk to me, when he tells me he's with his friends vs when he seems to be hiding what he's doing. I feel like INFJs are just too perceptive for our own good sometimes.
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2020.10.13 01:16 Delicious-Stomach-93 ISFJ lovers

I'm writing a fanfiction and my oc is an ENFP. I want to pair her with an ISFJ canon character. I'm an INTP btw. They are close friends and I'm planning on a best friend to lovers kind of relationship.
Can I ask
1)What traits in ISFJ do you find admirable and made you love or at least like them?
2) What your interaction between you and them usually looks like?
3) What kind of date do you do together and where?
4) What kind of trait that attracts them to you?
5) possible conflicts
6) Who made the first move
7) surprising ISFJ traits
Questions below are for ENFP
8) Do you desire stability and security in life?
9) ENFP traits that are surprising as in different in how ENFP always potrayed
10) Your deepest desire
11) What your inner monologue sounds like
your insights are really appreciated.

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2020.10.12 20:19 TheGoodKey I (19M) want to get back with my ISFJ ex (20f). Need advice for how to approach this!

I am an INTJ. She is ISFJ. We dated for 2 years, then she broke up with me this past February.
I was heartbroken. I told her that I would do everything I could to make sure we could work, and that I’d work on myself.
I went a little overboard at first with letters, gifts, etc... they never worked to build that attraction back she needed.
Fast forward to a month ago, and some drama regarding a random person I never knew happened. She blocked me on everything, assuming that I WAS behind it. My INTJ brain literally can’t handle her thinking that of me (I have proof that i had nothing to do with it), so I Venmoed her 1 cent to message her and ask her what happened.
How do I open that line of communication? Should I tell her how I feel and how much this is bothering me? Or should I be casual? Should I make an alternate account and talk to her on DMs and basically ask “wtf”? Should I be nice about it?
I just don’t get it. we were so close, I thought we were getting married. 8 months after the breakup and I still can’t ever see myself loving someone like that.
At the end of the day, I think she’s worried it’ll go back to how it was. But I can promise you I’d do anything for this girl, and I’ve made so many character improvements.
I want to date her but my first step is opening communication. Any replies much appreciated!
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2020.10.11 16:22 Cheap_Parking5857 Accepting an ISFJ's love choice, was it the right call ?

Hello everyone !
This will serve as a conclusion of a story I bored you all to death with. But I took my time to "connect" with my feeling, which is something very hard to do as an ENTP. And I just want you guys opinion to make sure I'm not mistaken in anything as it is .... dear to my heart ...
I met this girl that I instantly connected with, she felt it as well. I felt like I was with someone I've known my whole life. Except there was this "ghost of her past relation" that ended not so long ago and was 8 year long, so nearly 1/3 of her life. It seems the relation wasn't healthy and it ended because it was long overdue but feelings were still lingering. (Maybe some "Ne" outburst because she felt like "This or that could have fix the relation maybe I should try it" ?)

Long story short she ended up by going back to him. During the first period (when she needed time), I was comprehensive. Then she said she wanted to be alone, still answered with kidness, when she acted like she was missing me but still hesitating, I did the same and now that she told me she went back to him because she "felt that their story wasn't over" I did the same. I wished her happiness for I never wanted anything else for her.
This might be very boring, but as she was a very serious girl. For the first time in my life I was down to do things seriously from the start. And so I did. I fought against my very "nature" to answer with kidness, with empathy and I was already down to meet her family and stuff when she'd ask for it (because she already spoke about it). I might be 26 but I always eluded that part before, I couldn't feel too much "trapped". But she felt different, she instantly felt like home and thus I could be naturally myself, I could keep at bay my "fear of abandonment".
Now she is obviously gone and while I'm still thinking in some parts of my mind that she could come back if the "last tentative of fixing the relation" doesn't work, I already started dating again to not "linger" too much in that. I know myself and I know I'm weak against hope and remorses.
I just wanted to be sure that given those informations I did not do anything wrong to an ISFJ eyes. Was it really a good idea to act with such kindness ? Doesn't it make seem as if "I didn't really care about her" ?
I know people tends to like those who do not pursue them but I just need other's insights that I took the right decision..
So... was my path the right one ?
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2020.10.11 08:47 molecularcoffee does anyone know what it’s like to date an ISFJ?

i’m currently seeing an ISFJ girl and just want a little more insight into the dynamic between us and them and what i can expect.
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2020.10.10 02:52 Gimme_tuna Love matches, an Dateing standards.

Good day to you, and hope you're having a fantastic morning, or evening. To get some quick things out if the way, I is an ISFJ dude, and honestly really love this community.
So as the title states, I have been curious about MBTI and dateing. I have been into mbti for maybe three years, but havnt learned much about how this affects relationships. I always feared it would affect my dateing life if I somehow got it in my brain that because I read on some site that ISFJs dont work well with say an ENTJ, then I would be bias.
Also, disclaimer, this is going to be long, so dont get to Invested in this if you hate reading.
As a topic, I wanted to here some opinions, and maybe even discuss some things regarding dateing, and MBTI.
After dateing and just meeting people in general, I have a general grasp of what I look for in a partner. I have never listed out dateing requirements before. But I will do so in the name of MBTI.
1) [nerdy] What I mean by this, is that I like someone who's a little quirky, or on the socially awkward side. It's kinda weird. But I find it incredibly cute, and fun. Also intellectual sofisticaton is something I need out of a partner. I love deep conversations and someone to share my poetry and art with, as well as see and discuss what literature and hobbies they have.
2) [likes to be taken care of] I think this is an ISFJ thing. But I feel like some people just want to take care of themselves all the time. I like indipendance, but I will feel useless if I am not providing and looking after my girl.
3) [cozy to be around] by this I mean a girl who would enjoy long coddling and talks over tea. Or going hiking or whatever. But just someone who makes me feel like I'm hers and I would never worry if she loved me.
4) [a dreamer] I strangly realized about myself, I have a crazy adventurous side, and I would greatly appreciate a girl who would go along with me and be by my side. I recently decided to enlist in the navy, but have not gone to boot camp because of covid. I hope to be a navy diver, so alot of traveling would be involved. I think this also goes hand in hand with being creative and open. With I hope to find.
5) [genuine] last one, I promise. Being who I am, I easily see through people who are fake. Being yourself is very important to me, because that's the best thing you can be.
So I know that was long, and a little superficial or fantastical. But my enneagram is 4, so can you really blame me ;).
So my question is does a type like this exist, and if so what type would you say that is. This is of course just my ideals, so dont think I'm holding people to some unrealistic standard. No body is perfect, and I know that. And that's what makes people unique.
One last side note. I realized I get along super well with INTPs and INFPs for some reason.
Hope this was Interesting to you. And I'm so excited to here some feedback.
God bless, and peace.
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2020.10.07 12:53 MrINTJ22 Isfj says Idon't want a relationship

I'm dating an ISFJ girl and from the beginning she said she doesn't want to give "all herself" again to a relationship. I said okay I'll be with her in hopes she changes her mind.
If I'm consistent enough, and show her how much I care, is it worth the gamble?
Last date I asked for the kiss and she said "next time I promise" even though she stressed the fact that she had a great time
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